May 25, 2012 > What is Domestic Violence?
What is Domestic Violence?
Submitted By Newark PD
What do we mean when we talk about domestic violence? Whereas a healthy relationship is based on equality and respect, an unhealthy relationship is based on power and control. Domestic violence occurs when one partner uses power and control over his/her significant other. Abuse and violence can happen in any relationship regardless of age, race, religion, ethnicity, level of education, sexual orientation, or economic background.
Red Flags: 15 Signs of an Abuser
1. Always has to be in control
2. Blames circumstances (always has an excuse of their behavior)
3. Blames others
4. Closed-minded (believes in stereotypical gender roles)
5. Denial (difficulty communicating / compromising)
6. Extreme jealousy (calls you constantly, visits unexpectedly, always has you "check in")
7. Hypersensitivity (easily insulted, claiming hurt feelings)
8. Isolation (often tries to cut off ties with family and friends)
9. Plays on your guilt
10. Possessive (acts like they "own" you)
11. Unpredictable behavior (mood swings)
12. Unrealistic expectations
13. Uses intimidation (pressures you into sex, abusing drugs/alcohol)
14. Uses verbal put-downs
15. Violent tendencies or threats of violence
If you are in an abusive relationship, we urge you to take necessary action to get yourself and your family safe. The Newark Police Department as well as other organizations are ready, willing and able to assist you.
Safe Alternatives to Violent Environments (S.A.V.E.)
Hotline: (510) 794-6055
Office: (510) 790-6939