April 4, 2006 > Love bonds life
Love bonds life
by Pushpa Warrier
It was a great moment when Laura gave birth to beautiful twin daughters on Dec. 4, 2005 - their dad, Bill Eagan's 57th birthday. Laura and Bill Eagan were married in June 2004 and were happily looking forward to the birth of their daughters. But tragedy struck when Laura passed away in the early morning hours of December 5, the very next morning after giving birth.
"It's an incredibly bittersweet experience," said Bill. "My wife wanted to have children really more for my benefit so that I could have the experience of being a father and all the joys that go along with that wonderful experience. At the same time it is sad when I think that the girls will have to grow up without their mother."
Anne, the youngest twin, resembles her father, and Suzanne, the oldest twin, resembles her mother. "I feel fortunate in two regards," recounts Bill. Firstly, he feels he is lucky because his employer, H & R Block Financial Advisors gave him the flexibility to work at home by giving him a computer with client and stock market information. Secondly, he is comforted by having Luisa, their live-in nanny, who is a good and loving person.
"The community has been so wonderful," said Bill. Many people have stepped up to help out. Sue Aro, president of the Rotary and Exchange Club in Fremont, mobilized volunteers, and Lila Bringhurst, president of the Rotary Club, did a wonderful job of setting up a mechanism within the club. Mike King, who will take over from Lila as president on July 1, set up a website that coordinates volunteer schedules. Patricia Milazzo is a pediatric nurse gives regular valuable advice on the babies' upbringing. Debbie Gumina, a pediatric birthing nurse, is of enormous help to the twins' well-being. And Piper Trimai, a medical technician, comes in four days a week to look after the girls.
The Tri-City Mothers of Multiples is an organization that provides a forum for people to share common experiences. "My wife filled out an application, but she died before they could formally accept her into the club. After her death, they adopted me into the club," Bill said. The club president came over to help with the physical details and to organize schedules. Sheryl Ashford, of Mothers of Multiples, brings food on a regular basis. Sharon Fox a member of the club, helped redecorate the Eagan's three-bedroom townhouse in Newark. Sharon brought her husband, Carl to the house and he remodeled a closet in the home's master bedroom.
"The next thing I know, another lady, Diana Ihde, got a group to paint the entire upstairs of the house and redo the twins' room,'' Bill said. "Laddie Phullar, a wonderful Indian lady, comes every Monday and drops off food - wonderful traditional Indian food. Laddie and her husband are wonderful people and have been so nice to me."
"It's been very difficult... two babies relying on you. There are lots of things to do. And you have to think what is best for your children. Sometimes you think you have not thought enough. Under such difficult times, it's been the support from the community that has eased my burden a lot."
Bill wants to impart on his lovely twin daughters every possible intellectual advantage. He feels he has so much work to do to formulate an educational plan for his children. It takes courage, it takes love. And love bonds life.
If you would like to help, contact Bill at (408) 446-7306 or email him at firstname.lastname@example.org, or visit www.eagantwins.org.